While our last question was one of ‘the 20 biggest questions in science’ (The Guardian),
our new big question is rather one of the biggest questions of humanity:
What is love?
Feel free to write whatever comes to your mind! You might see a quote of your response in the print version of issue 4!
For me, love is a decision to dedicate yourself to another person and standby them through the good and the bad. Love is to standby someone even when they have upset you. Love lifts us up, it can knock us out, and it certainly is not always easy, but one thing is for sure, love does not quit.
Love is the essence of human attachment. It is also one of the very basic human needs (e.g. food, shelter) that I suggest should be included in textbooks from kindergarten onwards.
‘Love is an untamed force.
When we try to control it, it destroys us.
When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us.
When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.’
Love can be found everywhere. Between couples, friends or even strangers. It means being selfless and doing something for other people. It can be a nicely prepared food or just a simple smile on the street. Love keeps humans alive.
Love is an innate fire, so hot that it burns away the dirt of our rationality to leave a pure golden nugget of sentiment that outshines every star in the universe.
Once God crafted this fire for humans to warm their hearts. He made it of ingredients like unselfishness, tenderness and generosity. But so immersed was He in crafting that He didn’t notice the devil sneaking in and dripping poison into his opus. This way also acidic ingredients like envy and egoism were mingled into the fire. Unaware of this God sent his gift to every human heart – and here we are: possessors of a heart that is craving for nutrition to make the fire of love inside us burn.
When burning we can become a lighthouse of happiness and creativity and reveal the most genuinely good sides of humankind. But so infinitely hot can the fire become that it blinds our eyes, numbs our senses and burns our heart to ashes. We become heartbroken, sick of our own life or devastators of other people’s lifes.
There is only one sure thing: there is no cure to love and no vaccination available to become immune. So let’s endorse our fate and become unconditional lovers by giving without demanding anything in return. And there is indeed so much room for love every day that goes beyond romantic love but is often prevented by the grip of thoughts revolving around ourselves. The less self-possessed we become, the more space opens for true love.
love is a moment we suffer when we think about him/her, all of our cells are revived, when we see him/her we want to have our whole existence belong to him/her.
Love is a natural feeling that cannot always be suppressed, sometimes we have conscious control over the feelings of love and other times these feelings rise from our hearts without any conscious thought at all. Thank god for love – that we remember this world is not just full of hate, that there are good people and compassion exists.
Chemically speaking, the sensation of love originates from oxytocin, dopamine, estrogen, testosterone and vasopressin.
The combination of these neurochemicals leads to partner preference, attachment and sex drive.
Luckily, love is way more complex than this..
From the evolutionary perspective, love was and is an important feeling for the success and survival of humanity. Some scientists think love and brains co-evolved in our primate ancestors, as the increaseing brain of the primates lead to earlier births in development and more helpless babies. Thus mother-child bonding was the first kind of love that developed and paved the way for evolving romantic love that scientists suggest to be another strategy to increase infant survival. In sum, this would mean that the different stages of love (sexual desire, romantic love, companionship stage) exist to guarantee the continuity of life.